New mums

So… you’ve had a baby… and suddenly your brain feels like it’s buffering

No one really warns you about this part.

Not the birth.
Not the nappies.
Not the lack of sleep.

I mean the bit where you’re standing in the kitchen staring into the fridge wondering what you opened it for… while also holding a baby… while also reheating your coffee for the third time (actually it was tea for me).

And then forgetting it again.

It’s a very specific kind of chaos.

And if you’re in it right now — you’re not doing it wrong.

It’s just… a lot.

I remember those early days of motherhood feeling like I was constantly doing things halfway.

Half a conversation.
Half a shower.
Half a meal.
Half a thought before getting interrupted.

And the other half was usually somewhere between:
“what does the baby need right now?”
and
“why did I walk into this room again?”

It starts to feel like your brain is running a slightly different operating system.

It feels like too many tabs open at once… and one of them is always playing sound and you can’t find it.

And the funny thing is — on paper nothing is wrong.

You’ve got your baby.
You’re doing the feeds, the nappies, the settling, the everything.

But inside, it can feel like life has changed so quickly that you’re still catching up to this new version of it all.

I think one of the biggest shocks for a lot of women isn’t just the tiredness.

It’s the identity shift.

Because suddenly you’re “mum”…

Which is beautiful.

But also a bit weird when you’re still trying to remember what you went into the room for.

And I don’t think anyone really talks about how much adjustment happens in that season — mentally, emotionally and practically all at once.

Not in a dramatic way.

Just… different.

Less linear thoughts.
Less time for your own brain.
Less space for anything that isn’t immediate.

And a lot more reheated coffee.

Honestly, I think reheated coffee (or tea) deserves its own category of motherhood.

And here’s the thing — it doesn’t mean anything is wrong.

It just means life has changed shape for a while.

Everything is centered around this tiny human who needs you constantly and your own needs quietly slide to the bottom of the list without you even noticing.

Until one day you realise you’ve been wearing the same leggings for… a suspicious number of days.

I don’t think new mums need more pressure to “find themselves” or “bounce back” or anything like that.

I think most of us just need:
• a bit more time
• a bit less expectation
• and maybe a hot drink we actually get to finish

And also, the reminder that you’re not the only one reheating the same cup of coffee three times and still not drinking it.

If you’re in that season right now, you’re probably doing better than you think you are.

Even if it feels messy.

Even if you’re running on half thoughts and reheated drinks.

This isn’t you losing yourself.

It’s you adjusting to a whole new version of life.

And slowly… you start coming back into yourself in it.

Cass x